As Seth Godin says, when we take responsibility for our actions and don’t make excuses, we have to rise to the occasion and face the consequences – however painful they may be – head on.
It’s called, being on the hook. And most people don’t like it.
Why? Because they’re putting their neck on the line and taking responsibility for their actions. And if something goes awry, they’re accountable to make things right.
There seems to be less and less of these people in the world. But, these are exactly the kind I want to be around.
Are you one of them?
My brother-in-law said something to me this weekend that I’ve heard before, but landed a bit different for me this time.
We were trying to get a plumbing line to drain with the tools we had at our disposal. When we were all finished – and a bit defeated because we couldn’t get the clog out of the line he said, “We might not have gotten 100% of the result we wanted, but we gave 100% effort.”
I thought about it before agreeing with him.
After all, isn’t that what we all want. I know I do.
The more days, I gratefully spend on this earth, the more I’m convinced that at the end of the day, if we’re still standing tall – it’s been a success.
Keeping it simple and our focus sharp, we can move towards our intentions with a bit less self-judgement, being more efficient and more effective with our time.
It can get ugly. It’s going to be challenging. And there will certainly be chaos. But, standing tall through it all brings dignity to our lives and gives us the strength to move forward to the next adventure.
And so let’s stand tall through it all, keeping our head raised high through the long haul.
As Darren Hardy has said, “people will respect you as much as you respect yourself and they will disrespect you as much as you tolerate it.”
We owe it to ourselves to protect ‘us’ as much as we would a beloved family member.
We seem to justify if people disrespect us, but wouldn’t tolerate any if it came to someone we loved.
Why is that? Not sure. But, it needs to stop.
Taking care of the ‘self’ is not selfish. Taking care oneself is courageous. Strong. And brave.
Let’s not fall into the trap of justifying someone’s disrespectful behavior towards us. We deserve better. All of us do.
Your self will thank you.
I’m positive this has been said before. Especially by the likes of me, but . . . I’m going to say it again.
No matter how dark it can get, let’s not forget – let’s not ever forget – no matter what, we can always begin again.
I’d be willing to bet there are many people who aren’t on this earth any more would say the same thing.
In fact, there was a study of people who jumped off the Narrow’s and/or Golden Gate bridge that survived the jump. Most of those people regretted it the moment they jumped. They chose life.
We can always begin again.