So often I wish I had known about that particular information earlier – when I was younger. But, how are we supposed to know when we don’t know?
I would respond by saying, ‘we search.’ And we never stop searching.
We certainly aren’t going to discover anything new by pondering it on the couch. We must show up, dive in and sort our way through the chaos. It’s not going to be pretty, but life doesn’t work that way.
It’s messy. It’s unpredictable. And it can be very uncomfortable. Even painful at times, but we wouldn’t want it any other way. Because from this pain comes the gems of wisdom, knowledge and life experience.
I know I find myself holding back showing my Love for others who I care for deeply and I’m not sure why. Whether it’s telling them how much I appreciate them or a gesture of support.
Maybe it’s because I’m waiting for the perfect moment. The right situation. A cue from the universe?
The problem with this approach and the reality of life is this: There’s never going to be the perfect time.
Now is the only time we have. This moment. And unless we take advantage of it, it may pass us by never to return.
And that would truly be a shame.
I’m not sure about you, but I have an extremely difficult time sitting down and designing the life I intend to have.
And yes, I do think it’s important to write it down and not just dream about it. I’ve heard it said: “A goal that is not in writing is merely a fantasy.” D.H.
Let’s not leave our lives to chance. Let’s specifically design it for ourselves – as much as we can – and let the rest fall into place.
Maybe it’s the manufacturing part that makes me reluctant. Or maybe I find it too unglamorous to sit down in a room by myself and ask the all important but difficult questions: “Who Am I?” and “What do I want?” or “How do I want people to talk about me when I’m gone? and possibly “How can impact others in a positive way?”
But, when I do daydream, this is exactly what is important to me in the best version of my life. So, why not create it myself. Now.
Let’s not get confused what a “given” is in life.
It’s something that cannot be changed such as, I am a male with green eyes as the youngest of five kids (And no, I’m not going to get into that).
Just because something has been a certain way for a long time – even decades, doesn’t mean it’s a “given” and cannot be changed.
If you have never been in shape/fit for your entire life, doesn’t mean you can’t change that. Or even if you are uneducated, or never having an abundance of money.
All of these elements in our lives are not “givens.” These are results from the daily habits we have chosen to do and get used to.
Once we decide we want to change something in our lives and we begin to change what habit we form on a daily basis, we begin to point our compass in a new direction. One that takes us to the desired outcome of what we want.
After all, we are what we do on a daily basis.
Let’s bring someone along for the ride. Let’s find the time and make the effort to help someone who is looking to take their game to the next level.
If we can help them, why not lend a hand and part the wisdom we have in order for them to become the best version of themselves they can be.
After all, most likely someone did it for us and it made a great positive impression upon us. Why not pay it forward. We all benefit.