Month: January 2025 (Page 2 of 2)

I’ll be the first one to say that more times than not, I can benefit from hearing the hard truth. The facts. Being blunt. No frills.

Even I’m smart enough to know that I will sugar-coat the truth to myself to save my ego and justify my efforts.

This is where we can all benefit from someone in your inner circle who can give it to you straight. Maybe they’re not in your inner circle. Maybe they’re a business colleague or even a stranger. It really doesn’t matter. The question is: can you take it? I hope it’s in me to do so. I hope it’s in you to do so.

Why? Because we can all benefit from the truth if we want real change for the better.

I find it challenging to summon up the power of ‘why‘ while I’m striving for my goal/s in order to carry my motivation from the first of the year deep into the fiery bowels of late fall into December carrying as much fervor with me as I did on January 2nd.

I understand that we do things for two reasons: the carrot or the stick. Pain or pleasure. In the past, I never wanted to entertain the idea of doing something because of anger or pain. I didn’t want to entertain the thoughts of those low energy emotions. I wanted to choose a higher energy such as Love. But, the truth of the matter is this; We will do more to avoid pain than we will to gain pleasure. I have many examples of that in my life. I will do more to avoid pain. And for me, the regret of not doing something is a powerful motivator.

There are past experiences that haunt me to this day where I know deep within me I didn’t give 100% effort and because of that I came up short of reaching my intended goal. But for me, it wasn’t so much about reaching that goal as it was the effort I gave. I knew I could have given more.

That’s enough for me to reassess where my fears are located and square-up to each and every one. I don’t want to live my life with the pain of regret in my heart. That hurts too much.

I’m not really even sure what this means. I believe I do when it comes to facts. As a fact is still a fact – even today. On the other hand, when it comes to our perspective, it becomes a bit more complicated.

The reason is because of our perception of what is true or real. Or even present in the moment. It’s our mind’s way of trying to protect us, but we can miss vital information that will prevent us from evolving. This is called ‘Selective Perception.’ That’s why I want to pull on this thread.

Selective Perception is when our mind filters what we don’t want to hear or see – for whatever reason. So, it leads us to only see a fraction of the truth and not what is actually real. Essentially, it’s choosing to believe what you want to believe is true. Not actually true.

For me, this is no way to go through my day. I would rather see the world in an unbiased way and make my decisions from that truth. Wouldn’t you?