We’re unable to move forward in a healthy way until we can reconcile our past blunders and choices.
If we can view it as a learning process, it may take the sting out a bit and give ourselves a bit of a break.
We all intend for the best, however sometimes – for whatever reason – it just doesn’t always work out the way we expect it.
However, by hanging on to the past is of no benefit to us. We can’t change it, but we can certainly acquire knowledge from the experience and move on applying what we have learned.
There’s a big difference between living in the past and learning from it.
Let’s chose the latter.
The definition of humility is: The freedom from pride or arrogance.
I don’t know about you, but when it comes time to find more freedom in my life, I’m all in.
When I’m happiest and experiencing the most joy in my day, I’m free from pain: physical, mental and emotional, free from the past and the future, free from guilt or shame, free from self-judgement, the judgement from others and maybe the most important – free from my ego.
That sounds like something I’d like to experience daily on a regular basis.
So often I wish I had known about that particular information earlier – when I was younger. But, how are we supposed to know when we don’t know?
I would respond by saying, ‘we search.’ And we never stop searching.
We certainly aren’t going to discover anything new by pondering it on the couch. We must show up, dive in and sort our way through the chaos. It’s not going to be pretty, but life doesn’t work that way.
It’s messy. It’s unpredictable. And it can be very uncomfortable. Even painful at times, but we wouldn’t want it any other way. Because from this pain comes the gems of wisdom, knowledge and life experience.
I know I find myself holding back showing my Love for others who I care for deeply and I’m not sure why. Whether it’s telling them how much I appreciate them or a gesture of support.
Maybe it’s because I’m waiting for the perfect moment. The right situation. A cue from the universe?
The problem with this approach and the reality of life is this: There’s never going to be the perfect time.
Now is the only time we have. This moment. And unless we take advantage of it, it may pass us by never to return.
And that would truly be a shame.
I’m not sure about you, but I have an extremely difficult time sitting down and designing the life I intend to have.
And yes, I do think it’s important to write it down and not just dream about it. I’ve heard it said: “A goal that is not in writing is merely a fantasy.” D.H.
Let’s not leave our lives to chance. Let’s specifically design it for ourselves – as much as we can – and let the rest fall into place.
Maybe it’s the manufacturing part that makes me reluctant. Or maybe I find it too unglamorous to sit down in a room by myself and ask the all important but difficult questions: “Who Am I?” and “What do I want?” or “How do I want people to talk about me when I’m gone? and possibly “How can impact others in a positive way?”
But, when I do daydream, this is exactly what is important to me in the best version of my life. So, why not create it myself. Now.