Month: April 2023 (Page 2 of 3)

Inherently, there is nothing wrong with wanting more. Hopefully, we all want to move forward with our evolvement to be the best versions of ourselves we can be.

But, we also may want to keep the big picture in mind knowing where we’ve come from and how far we’ve traveled. Often times, these are great anchors in our lives for us in order to stay humble and grounded. I like to call it, keeping our perspective.

It’s in our nature to build upon what we know and what we have to be bigger and better. This is our human drive to always keep moving forward.

But every so often it doesn’t hurt to pull back the zoom from our lives in order to see the entire forest so we can appreciate this wonderfully long event and all the miracles laced throughout called life.

How often are we coming up with ideas that have never been seen or heard before?

When are we moving forward in life in ways no one else has ever done?

Have we ever created a piece of work that’s the first of it’s kind?

I suppose the answer is never, not very often and no. We will always stand on the shoulders of those that came before us.

This is how we learn, grow and evolve.

But, that doesn’t mean we can’t put our personal touch on something we’ve created from scratch because we’ve been inspired by those who came before us.

No seriously. What are you talking about?

The weather? Your neighbor across the street? Your boss?

Things you can’t do anything about or things you can.

We can get stuck in a groove where we are surrounded by our own and other people’s negative, useless and unproductive conversations.

Why? it makes us feel better. It’s a justification for not taking responsibility.

Maybe we can increase our awareness of what we talk about in a day. Who we surround ourselves with. The questions we ask ourselves. The conversations we have with others.

Are we complaining about others? The circumstances? What someone else has done to us or how they made us feel?

These are all excuses for not taking 100% responsibility for our lives. And until we do, we will continue to play the victim.

Is this how we want to live out our lives in the best version of ourselves as possible?

I’m not so sure. I think there’s greatness in each and everyone of us just waiting to be discovered and cultivated.

And yes that can be frightening.

We can go many years in a world in which we believe everyone else is not so smart, don’t know what they’re doing and have no clue.

Or we can choose to ask ourselves, ‘What is my responsibility in this situation?’ This may be the stronger choice.

When we’re able to take 100% responsibility for our lives is when we can begin to live a functional life. Why? Because we no longer rely on excuses, circumstances or other people’s lack of consistency. It comes down to us, our behaviors and actions.

This can be extremely frightening to some and incredibly powerful for others. Why? We’re on the hook. Period.

In a time where it’s hard to find those who take full responsibility for their actions. We can. And boy what a difference it can make.

We cannot change the past, but only the way we choose to do things in the present moment. And we can indeed take new and different action than we did yesterday.

We can be haunted by our past from what we chose to do and what not to do (It would seem for me, it’s more about what I didn’t do). And I’ve found the best way to dissipate the ghosts of my past is to attack the present moment with passion and fervor.

I’m not a fan of horror movies and I certainly don’t need any more ghosts from my past paying me visits. And so I use engagement and actions in the areas of my life where I’m afraid or unsure of how to move forward as my (Harry Potter) Patronus Charm.

This seems to keep my “demons” at bay.