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I Know

I can find myself getting frustrated when I tell my 15 year-old son something and his response is, “I know.”

And of course my reply is always the same; “If you know, then why didn’t you do it?” Or “Why did you do it, then?”

I can’t blame the kid. I’m a 55 year old man and I do the same thing. Why?

Because doing the right thing – whether that’s eating healthy foods, working out or making those phone calls to prospective clients is NOT FUN. It’s a grind. You’re working towards a future-based goal in which you won’t receive that instantaneous surge of dopamine like you do when on social media. That’s a fact.

But, what we have to understand is those brief shots of dopamine and extended hours glazed over while locked into our screens are empty promises in which a fulfilling life CANNOT be built upon. That’s no secret.

So, let’s find moments in our day to take one step up the grand staircase of intention towards meaningful goals in our lives.

That’s what I want to get addicted to.

Lean On Me, Please

I recently spoke with a friend, who I’ve known for years, and he shared with me his struggles with some issues in his life in regards to his health.

He is better now, but had difficulty just getting out of bed, going to work or even being on vacation. He struggled for a couple of years before turning it around which I was happy to hear.

The one thing I couldn’t help but think was why he didn’t come to me for help. I feel like even though we don’t hang out daily, we’re close enough to have pretty authentic conversations with each other when we’re together. But nevertheless, when looking to discuss what he was going through, my name never came up. It’s all good, and I don’t hold it against him.

It just makes me think about whether others feel like I’m availible for them when they’re in need. That’s important to me for the ones I care about and I need to work on this.

We all need someone to lean on. I hope next time I can help.

How about you?

Benevolent Beings

Saying “Yes” is so much more exciting than saying “no.”

Of course keeping in mind all the healthy reasons to do such a thing: our boundaries with our work and personal life, the safety of our health and so on.

But, to put positive energy forth, opens our world to so many more options than the alternative. This would fall in line with trusting someone rather than being skeptical or giving someone the benefit of the doubt as opposed to thinking the opposite.

I just like that world better. It would seem we make better connection with others, faster and more frequently. Our bonds go deeper as well.

The times I’ve been fortunate enough to travel oversees, I’m always bewildered at the kindness and generosity of others. Almost to the point to where I second guess myself into thinking maybe they have malevolent motives. But, of course they don’t. They are giving me the benefit of the doubt. They are seeking a deeper connection. They inhabit a benevolent nature.

Something we can all learn from. Certainly me.

Confidence In Our Intentions

I love this idea – I just heard – that our confidence doesn’t come from our skills or talents but rather our intentions.

Because, if we do indeed believe that our intentions are pure and true – wanting not only what is best for us, but also for others as well – there is more than enough substance to be able to walk into any room with our heads held high and hold ground with anyone (not that the highest standard of confidence is having a conversation with someone).

Now, I’m fully aware that confidence also comes from wisdom. And wisdom comes from experience – from showing up and failing. It comes from putting in the work and not getting the results you want and then doing it again and again. Another words, putting in your 10,000 hours.

It wouldn’t benefit us to have a false sense of confidence in a technically specific field only because our intentions are pure. We need the knowledge behind those intentions as well. Otherwise, we could easily get in over heads quite quickly.

We’re Never Alone

Many of us feel that whatever we’re going through at the moment, we’re alone. We isolate ourselves from the rest of the world and stew in our pain, fear and loneliness convinced no one has experienced the pain that we’re going through.

These are the precise times when we need to call on those we know – both near and far – who Love us and whom we can trust, to share our feelings and our state of mind.

These are golden opportunities to solidify relationships with those we care about and care about your well-being as well.

Maybe if we take a chance and share a part of ourselves – a very real part – we’ll find that others will do the same with us. And now we can be there for them.

We can and will never get through this life alone without help. It always takes a village. . . .

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