Author: Jim Gohrick (Page 48 of 159)

Often I wonder why I’m in the place I’m in at the current moment. Good or bad. Most of the time, it’s not because of one reason. It’s a myriad of choices that have led me up to where I am.

The sage in me must be willing to self-reflect on how I got here and to objectively determine what I could have done differently and how to move forward – especially if I’m less than satisfied with my current results. Maybe even more so if I’m satisfied.

One tool we can use, that I must be reminded often to use, is asking questions. Why am I in this situation right now? How could I have done things different in order to avoid this? What is the best way to move forward from this?

The more intelligent and well-thought-out the question, the more specific and possibly useful answer we’ll receive.

So, I guess the question for me is: How do I ask a better question?

It certainly can be discouraging for me to ask the question, but no doubt necessary when looking to gain traction in my life.

Rather two questions: Am I happy with where I am? If I continue down this road doing the same behavior/s, will I end up in a place where I want to be?

For me, that cuts to the heart of the matter.

And to be completely honest; I’m not. And no.

So, something better change or I’m going to have to re-adjust my expectations.

Either way, there’s change on the horizon.

From my past experiences I’ve found that if I take an “all or nothing” attitude when making changes in my life, the chances that I burnout and backslide increase dramatically.

Deciding to go with an extreme diet with unrealistic expectations is a way of self-sabotaging where you’ll end up defeated, frustrated and a bit more jaded from where you started.

I’ve discovered that implementing small behavior patterns or mechanisms over time that I stick with offer the best chance for me to continue over the long haul that result in significant positive changes.

It’s a long way of saying, maybe we shouldn’t bite off more than we can chew.

After all, no one wants to feel overwhelmed or even worse; choke.

The good life has mystery around every corner.

There is pain and heartache at every turn.

It’s filled with Love from those who are close and riddled with painful blows from those same people.

There’s surprises and gems where you wouldn’t expect them.

And gaping holes to fall through where we’d never chose to look.

The good life is consistently responsive and horrifically unpredictable.

It’s right in front of us with no place to hide.

The rhythm can be intoxicatedly euphoric or feel eternally painful.

Regardless, the good life is here. It’s real. And it’s what we experience everyday.

The older I get the more I hear successful people talk about the importance of being able to sell. I probably heard about it when I was younger, but didn’t pay much attention to it as I felt it wasn’t important.

What I’ve recently become aware of is how often we are selling other people throughout the day. I’m not necessarily referring to actually selling them a product, but more along the lines of selling our ideas.

Whether it’s selling my wife on an idea of where we should go on our next vacation to selling my teenage son on the idea of hard work and persistence when it comes to achieving any goal you’ve set forth.

There are more times than not throughout our day when we’re selling. Why not master a skill that is often overlooked yet has the potential to take far beyond.

Selling. Something to think about.