It took me until I was in my late 20’s to early 30’s to realize I had a choice who I wanted in my circle. For whatever reason, I used to believe because someone showed up and wanted in, I had to give them permission. I have learned otherwise. Time is your most precious resource in life, so why waste being around people you don’t want to be around.
It does get tricky, I will say that. The crazy makers can make you feel like YOU are the one who is being irrational and difficult. The energy suckers have an excuse for every reason they are in the position they’re in and they want to bring you along for the ride. When I was younger I had a hard time distinguishing who was who. It’s almost like being in a war where the enemy is wearing civilian clothing. But, once you know what to look for it gets easier. Like anything, you have to work on your craft.
It doesn’t take me long now to identify people who are not good for me. I do my very best to be as open as possible with everyone, as I know anything can be the gateway to everything, but there are tell tale signs that cannot be overlooked.
When you find those wonderful people you want to be in your circle who: pull for you, encourage you, push you, are honest with you, don’t say what you want to hear, but what you need to hear, inspire you, guide you, love you, don’t let you off the hook and want you to succeed because they know there is enough to go around for everyone – hold them close, nurture them and NEVER take them for granted. These are the people we share our innermost dreams with and they don’t laugh at them. They walk along side you so you can obtain them.
Circle’s are strong as they are one continuous loop. But remember, they are only as strong as the weakest link.