It can be a challenge not to allow past experiences and results to effect the current moment you’re in. We tend to bring our mistakes and unwanted results into the present only to sabotage a perfectly good opportunity for a new outcome. I know, I have done it many times.
The key to remember is: a result. After all, that’s all it is. An outcome. It’s not “good” or “bad”. The world is not out to get you. It’s a series of steps and choices you have made that end as a finished result. If you’re not happy with the end product, then make some changes in your choices and your approach and then try again. You don’t have to have an emotional fit over it. It’s not going to change the result. Unless of course, you think that’s something you have to do in order to make different choices and/or get in the right mind set. For me, I know getting worked up over the issue doesn’t help me in the long run.
What helps me is when I begin to ask the right questions. Once I do this, I am forced to answer accordingly. Many times these answers are exactly what I’m looking for. However, I wouldn’t have been able to do this if I’m throwing a fit while kicking and screaming (I only do this half of the time).
A couple of quotes come to mind regarding this issue. One is: “The solution is in the question” and the other one is (and I’m grossly paraphrasing) “You must rise to the level of the solution in order to get the answer you want.” I’ve heard it explained this way as well: “The Wright brothers didn’t contemplate the staying on ground of things, nor did Alexander Graham Bell ponder the noncommunication of things. You have to do a somersault into the inconceivable and land on your feet, contemplating what you want instead of what you don’t have.” Wayne Dyer