Author: Jim Gohrick (Page 133 of 159)

Staying in your own lane and handling what you can control is an on-going challenge for me. It can be much easier to point fingers at others, shirk responsibility and become highly critical of someone’s else behavior rather than objectively look at your own to see what can be adjusted, fixed or changed.

In today’s “cancel culture” fueled by social media, it’s easier now more than ever, to never have to look at our own behavior. This is not healthy for anyone.

There are too many distractions. We are being bombarded by enormous amounts of information hurling towards us on a daily basis. No wonder we feel overwhelmed. Anxious. Fractured.

Simplify. And then go deep. Deep into your interests. Deep into relationships. Deep into your craft. Deep into others. Deep into your mind. Refrain from scratching the surface and then moving on. Go deeper.

Why, you ask? Because it’s rare. Because it’s easier not to. Because the chances of finding out more about your true self increases dramatically. Because it’s the path less traveled. Because you can connect with others. Because you’re worth it.

Why does it seem to be easier to take comfort in our thoughts of the future rather than remaining present in the moment? Maybe because we must let go of our ideals in the present and confront real issues. We must stand our ground and square up to the fight. The future is tomorrow and isn’t here yet. In the meantime, we can fool ourselves with false hopes and delusions of grandeur about a day that has not yet arrived.

Let’s not remain in that world of illusion. Instead, let us take pride in the evolvement of our self and risk something. Maybe risk everything. Risk being wrong. Risk being uncomfortable. Risk being judged. Risk being in pain. Risk your social status. Risk your image. Risk what you think is true. Risk it on Love.

I’m not interested in mainstream, but rather the truth. My truth. And the path that leads to it.

What say you?

What does being successful mean? Making a certain amount of money a year? Or maybe having a certain amount of subscribers. Becoming a “Best Seller?” Could success be defined as getting out of bed and facing the day? Some people think so. Is that definition of success a shortcut? I’m not so sure.

There are individuals who feel unsuccessful unless they are making a million dollars a year. Maybe we should measure our success by the amount of time and energy we remain in being uncomfortable. Facing our fears. Connecting. Providing support and service.

At times it can feel like our world is not set up to support this ideology, but rather those who desire to exploit others and reach a profitable bottom line. But, there is another way. There’s a path less traveled. One of morals and responsibility. An approach based in connection, service and community. A route that brings those people you are “exploiting” along for the ride. Elevating everyones’ lives. It’s not as common I will give you that. But, it doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.

That’s what I’m interested in.

Some would say it’s an anacronym for: False Evidence Appearing Real.

However you perceive it, I can say that most of the time the things I fear – which is usually something that is future-based and hasn’t yet happened – don’t turn out the way it’s depicted in my mind.

The question then is: why do we continue to feel fear over and over? Don’t we ever learn our lesson? That’s your ego trying to keep you safe. Safe from what you may be asking? Good question.

Failure. Success. Banishment. Basically, anything that disrupts the status quo. Your ego wants you to remain right where you are: Comfortable. Stagnate. Included. The problem is that’s exactly where you don’t want to be when you’re attracting what you want into your life. You must “risk it all” in order reap the big rewards. I’m not talking about risking your life, but rather ignoring the voice in your head that is telling you “start tomorrow,” or “your the most important thing in this world.” or “everyone else is an idiot, you’re the genius.”

Rather ask the question: “How may I serve?” and then remain quiet. Over time, you will begin to hear a still small voice within that will guide you in the direction of your true intentions.

That’s when you should be paying attention.

What tickles my fancy has evolved over the years. When I was younger, I had high expectations for outcomes. The stars had to align as well as other elements needing to fall into place in order for me to find some Joy.

Nowadays, it can be as simple as hot cup of tea that hits my Sweet Spot. I don’t see it as a matter of lowering my expectations, but rather becoming bewildered more often.

Maybe it’s age, maybe it’s wisdom – probably both – but the simplicity from which this realization comes is rather liberating. I’m able to remain present in the moment and soak it in instead of looking forward with unrealistic expectations to the next one while completely missing out on what’s right in front of me.

What’s your Sweet Spot?