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No matter how many times I see it, I’m still amazed when I place a tiny seed in the ground, cover it with dirt and water it, only to find after a couple of weeks a little green and white shoot peaking out of the earth. I get a thrill every time.

I took it for granted when I was younger and my parents had a huge garden. Maybe it was because I had to weed it or spread grass clippings throughout and between the rows of carrots, radishes and green beans. But now I thoroughly enjoy watching tomato plants and bell peppers appear on the vines as though it were magic.

A specific and honorable intention, proper steps (planting the seed, watering, etc), some hard work and a whole lot of faith. Sounds reasonable to me.

Could life really be that simple?

Yesterday is gone and there is nothing that can be done. Tomorrow is off the table, so don’t even entertain the thought of it. But, today is here, so what are you going to do about it?

So often we get caught up on our mistakes that took place yesterday, we end up dragging that baggage into the present moment tainting a perfectly pristine opportunity. Or we work ourselves into a lather about what hasn’t happened yet in the future (tomorrow).

Immerse yourself in today – better yet in the moment and whatever you do don’t put it off until tomorrow. Life is short and we must all learn to seize the moment.

“These have to be the good ole’ days.”

Adam Consolo

My understanding of the resolution to this topic is not simplistic by any means nor is there only one way to heal. However, I believe there are some basic elements to healing in which we can all benefit from.

I have always been a believer in moving through the issue your faced with rather than skirting around it or sweeping it under the rug. This is never a healthy way of getting on the other side. We must be honest with ourselves that we are indeed dealing with the wound (emotionally) and not just saying we are. Time does not heal all wounds. It kicks the can down the road. Until you’re ready to deal with them.

We must dive into the pain we feel, acknowledge it, identify where it’s coming from, remove ourselves from being exposed to it again (if possible) and move forward. These are the first steps.

I’m also a big proponent of discussing the topic with someone who is trained in such matters. Mind you, this should not be the only place where you reconcile your pain. Loved ones who are looking out for your best interest can shine light on the subject matter by sharing their perspective and life experiences.

There is no wrong way of healing – other than doing nothing. You will heal over time. Help yourself by gaining insight from your pain.

“The wound is the place where light enters you.”

Rumi

I’ve heard it more than once: by teachers, coaches and trained professionals – there is power in stillness. Ever since then, I have used it professionally and personally when needed. I have come to not only believe it is true, but I have acquired it as another tool in my kit in order to grow, learn and evolve.

In comedy, you are taught to deliver a line and then remain still. If you are approached by certain animals in the wild and even sometimes an aggressive dog, you are taught to stand your ground and remain still. There is power in it. Resolve. Commitment. And also it is a way to remain efficient. By not expending energy frivolously, you hold tight until you know your direction. Physically, emotionally and mentally.

The older I get, the less I run around frantically hoping to accomplish my goal. Now I get clear what I intend to attract – while remaining still – and then move forward with purpose and clarity towards my target.

Believe you – me, I have attended many one of these types of (metaphorical) parties. Sometimes I’m invited, sometimes I throw my own and sometimes I will just create one spur of the moment and not invite anyone else other than me. Sound familiar?

I consider a pity party to be a place where we focus – maybe even hyper focus on our own problems, misgivings and situation and shut the rest of the world out. There is nothing wrong with pity parties, as they may very well serve a purpose, but just make sure you know you’re at one.

Don’t be delusional and believe this bleak bash your attending is the way life is supposed to look. Or that you will transcend the obstacles and problems which you are experiencing. Essentially, you are in a holding pattern. You have placed the solution on hold in order to wallow in your sorrow. And that’s okay. But know if you want to move forward you must head for the door and leave that festivity behind you.

This is the first step in moving through your pain in order to learn, grow and evolve. It’s a brave one, but nevertheless necessary.