I’ve heard it takes years to build up trust and one moment to lose it all in a relationship. Personally, I don’t spend much time patrolling the perimeter of suspicion or engage in any drama because of the toxicity of it all. It doesn’t seem to be a part of my life these days. Part of it is luck no doubt, but mostly it’s because I’m getting better and better identifying healthy people who I chose to surround myself with.

Another helpful aspect of being around healthy people (and I don’t just mean physically) is being healthy yourself. If we live in a world of dysfunction, what do you think we are going to attract into our lives.

I’m always fascinated by people who are constantly running into trouble in their lives. Again, part of it can be chance, but most of it is because of the choices they make. Most people don’t like to hear that because that would mean they are responsible for their lives. That can be too much for some.

I have been lucky no doubt, but also I work hard at identifying and surrounding myself with others who will make me better – as I do the same for them.

But, it is also true that I don’t take other people’s trust in me lightly. I do my best to give them every reason to put that same trust in me tomorrow.