Author: Jim Gohrick (Page 135 of 159)

I’ve never been the flashy type. I’m not drop dead gorgeous, I don’t have the body of a Greek god nor do I need to be the center of attention (only when I want to make people laugh) and I certainly don’t need a plethora of material items to make me feel secure. But, I will be a person you can count on when everything goes sideways.

Who do you want to be? I’m old enough now that I will tell people up front what they can expect from me when entering into a relationship. Whether it’s business or personal. Striving to be as transparent as possible with realistic expectations and no surprises from me. Another words, no drama.

After all, this is what I want on the other end of my relationships. I can do without the bells and whistles. Relationships become forged and bonded when under enormous pressure and times are a bit difficult. I would much rather count on someone with a steady hand and a sound mind than a person with a bunch of bling bling.

What say you?

We must remember, there is always going to be another moment where we can make a different choice.

When I feel stuck in a groove that I don’t like, I have to consciously remind myself that I’m not defined by what happened in the past and that I have an opportunity to make things different in the next moment.

Too often we like to wear out our welcome at the “pity party” before getting ourselves back on track. There is nothing wrong with attending “pity parties.” Just make sure you realize that it is indeed a “pity party.”

We have to be able to recognize where we are before we can move forward to the next moment.

Give yourself the gift of rest.

In today’s world, work seems to trump many other important aspects of our lives including: meaningful relationships, health (mental/emotional/physical), sleep and more.

We have control over how we choose to spend our time and giving your body enough sleep is one of them.

Pulling all-nighters or staying up late into the night, only to get up early, fill yourself up with caffeine and hit it again, is no way to treat your body.

Take some time to arrange your schedule if you can – to go to bed earlier. Maybe you start off one night a week and go from there.

Your body and your mind will thank you.

Sometimes the most difficult aspects of moving forward in the face of obstacles is determining whether or not you’re on the right path. Often times we can become paralyzed because we are too concerned about taking the perfect approach.

What if this isn’t the answer. What if the best way to overcome the hurdles in front of you is to face them. Acknowledge them and engage them.

As I’ve heard before, the solution is in the problem. Upon facing the hardship, we find out more about the circumstances that caused the hitch, what may prevent this from happening again and more about who we are in handling bumps in the road like this.

I know one thing is for sure: NOT facing the problem isn’t going to do anything. It might make it worse.

When we become – what I call – “intimate” with anything (spending time with the subject matter) we become informed to make stronger choices on how to move forward.

Educated decisions are how I want to roll. How about you?

No one says you need to bring a cold water to a person on the street on a hot day. You certainly don’t have to slow down let that car cut in front of you on the freeway as you watch his blinker signal flash on and off. And you most definitely don’t need to apologize profusely after one of your passengers in your vehicle (even though you just told them to be careful 15 seconds prior) opened their door in parking lot and hit the car next to you – as the driver gets out of her vehicle and is cussing you out.

You have every right to go about your business and justify staying in your lane (literally and figuratively), shouting back and ignoring that human being as they stare at you with their “anything helps” sign written on tattered cardboard.

We tend to justify our behavior to suit our needs rather than pull back the zoom and look at the big picture. I know I do. Often times I also know what it feels like to be the person to let that car cut in front of me. I’m not a hero because of it. But, the idea of letting go can be.

The moment I change my tune from, “What’s in it for me?” to “How may I serve?” my world changes around me for the better.

Guaranteed.