Author: Jim Gohrick (Page 57 of 159)

I’m not quite sure how to handle my own snarkiness. And yes, I can be that way.

I believe it comes from a place of not being heard, respected or validated. Let’s be honest, I don’t like being snarky. I don’t like cynicism either. It’s a form of shirking responsibility as far as I’m concerned.

So, in order to remain clear-headed without falling into this trap, we must be able to express our feelings at the time and not sweep them under the rug only to pile up until we can no longer maintain our stoic mask and then lash out as the person we don’t want to be.

Does that entail being honest with others? Probably. Does it include conveying your feelings to others even though it may be uncomfortable for them to hear? Most likely.

Ultimately, we want to be true to ourselves and to others – being respectful of course. However, often times when drawing our boundaries to others, they get offended because it doesn’t fall in line with their agenda.

Oh well. That’s their agenda not ours. Besides, it beats being snarky.

More often than not, we must remind ourselves that there is nothing we can do about our past mistakes. However difficult it may be for us to come to terms with what has already happened, dwelling on what could have been is a waste of time and energy.

This idea of always looking into our rearview mirror as we’re traveling down the highway of life can have a devasting effect on our present moment as we are not fully engaged in what’s occurring right now. We have chosen to place more importance on the “ifs” and “buts.” We are disillusioned and have become obsessed with a futile perspective.

We are always moving forward in life and never step in the same stream twice, so it would behoove us to pay attention to where we’re heading by finding the present moment and commanding our vessel in the direction we want to go.

There’s no proof other than my own life experiences, but I’ve always remained steadfast in the belief that we all have a small voice within giving us the direction we need to head – guiding us – no matter what the circumstance.

Often times, we allow the distractions of the world, other people and even our own minds to drown out the sage advice we are giving ourselves.

Maybe we don’t trust what we’re hearing and/or feel confident we’re going to take the right path. But, I would argue – who is going to know your journey and what you’re capable of more than you?

The answer is no one. But that can be frightening. It is for me at times.

And the only way I’ve found to push through that fear is addressing it head on and pressing forward by trusting what we’re hearing and feeling.

Life experiences is what brings about wisdom not the contemplation of life.

So, let’s listen and live.

We all have gifts – or dare I say powers – where we excel in one area of life more than another. They may not be superpowers, but they are powers nevertheless that we can utilize to help others and/or benefit ourselves.

I suppose it would be the same for superheros. Are they using their gifts for the good of man or to self-serve and raise their own status?

We’d like to think it’s for others and to leave this place a bit better than when they came, but . . .

I’m guilty of the same, no doubt. There are times when I’m looking out for me and only me. I’m not proud of that, but it’s true.

Maybe we can all look for ways to help each other out a bit more and in turn it will always come back to us ten fold.

I’m constantly fascinated how certain people have the knowledge, capacity and are able to develop the habits in order to be extrememly successful in one area of their lives, but yet so completely uneducated in another.

Balance in their lives is a large part of it, but what I don’t understand is how they allow that balance to remain. For example, someone who has a multi-million dollar business, but is unable to sustain a healthy marriage befuddles me.

Surely, this individual has sought and attained the knowledge in order to gain insight and strategies on how grow and sustain his business. In addition, he’s surrounded himself with high-performing people in order to help him/her get to a place of success.

How can they be so blind as not to see what it takes to have a successful relationship with their partner? Is it a choice? Surely they have the resources in order to model a more functional relationship. Is it just the desire – or lack thereof.

Maybe it’s just not a priority for them. I’m not quite sure.

Success in life is having a well-balanced life in all areas of our lives. Or at least I would think so. I know it feels that way for me.

If I’m not getting the results I intend to have in one aspect of my life, I better go find someone who is and get some insight in order to model their behavior and learn the ropes.

If not, get used to this view.