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We seem to spend most of our younger years trying to fit in with the crowd, in addition to looking for the approval of others. We spend a lot of time, effort and agony searching for that approval. As we move through life, we hopefully come to contextualize this “approval” and put it in its’ proper place.

When we stop looking for the approval of others and begin to follow our own path is when we find our true selves. This isn’t about being selfish. It’s about loving and nurturing the self. Those are very different concepts.

The only approval we should seek is our own. Based on our character, the choices we make and how we treat other people.

What someone else thinks about you is irrelevant to your journey. We must follow our compass within us whether it makes sense to others or not. As long as our intentions are true.

There’s a book by Trevor Moawad called, “It Takes What It Takes” in which he goes into detail about how “staying neutral” in every situation in order to manifest the best outcome possible.

As a mental conditioning expert, Trevor goes against the grain of most other mental professionals in his field who tout the idea of staying “positive.” Trevor’s approach is to arrive to every situation with a neutral mindset. This is something he as been working on with Russell Wilson for years in order to maintain his edge as a starting quarterback and arguably a future Hall of Famer in the NFL.

What does “stay neutral” mean? For me, staying neutral is an opportunity for us to NOT bring any baggage from the past to the current moment from that may taint or skew your point of view – either positively or negatively. There is a disadvantage to both.

We often times go into situations where there have been similar circumstances with an attitude that matches the last time we either failed or succeeded. We unconsciously or even consciously bring that energy and mindset to the current task and apply it, even though it’s not benefiting our overall goals.

We must find the neutrality of the situation and bring our preparation to the scene with a knowing it will all work out.

Another words, stay neutral.

I’m interested in people that want to look at their past experiences as a young and upcoming student of life -in any field- and analyze their mistakes/bad movies/first screenplays and novels and even failed business ventures that didn’t make in order learn what worked and what didn’t.

This is where the gems lie. But, if we’re unable to watch one of George Lucas’ first movies from film school because he is too concerned about how it makes him look now as a successful filmmaker, how are we ever going to know where we came from and what we learned along the way?

This is where we must understand, everyone starts from somewhere. And yes, it may look a little ugly and that’s okay.

All too often we believe we need to hit it out of the park at our first at-bat. It’s unrealistic to have those kinds of expectations. I’m not saying we don’t want to swing for the fence, but don’t let it stop you from getting up to the plate next time. The reality is, we will probably strike-out much more than getting hits. Remember: A major league hall of fame baseball player roughly gets a hit 3 times out of 10. Which means he is “failing” 7 times out of those 10 at-bats.

We must pay attention to what we consider “failing.” Gaining knowledge after going through an experience -whether we failed or not- is called wisdom. And how can we ever get to this place without diving in and taking reps.

After all, the future hall of famer doesn’t quit playing baseball after his first strikeout, nor his 66th or 356th. He goes back to practice to make adjustments to his swing. The good ones will continue to do this until they retire the game.

Never stop learning. Never stop making adjustments. But mostly importantly, stay in the game.

Getting into a field of interest because you know there are ample job opportunities after your studies make sense to you? Or chasing a career path because you see the kinds of cars they drive and homes they live in appeal to you? If so, then there is nothing wrong with that.

However, There may be another path in which you can explore and cultivate what you’re passionate about while touching, inspiring and helping others AND get paid a lot of money to do it.

Which one sounds more sustainable? Are you being enriched by your work? How will you and work be remembered? Will your customers’ miss you?

I would like to think there is a better way of getting through life than chasing that cheddar everyday only to come home and collapse on the couch with exhaustion so you can mentally and physically check out as you summon the energy to get up the next day and do it all over again.

What say you?

The title speaks for itself I suppose.

In the same way we choose to be optimistic vs. pessimistic throughout the day, having an attitude of gratefulness works in the same way.

First and foremost, it’s a choice. We are making a choice to look at our lives from a very specific perspective. And I could argue that it’s more about that perspective we choose to view the world than anything else.

When we choose a point of view that supports the idea we have people and things in our lives to be thankful for, it puts us in place where we’re vibrating at a higher level. And let me remind you, this is a choice. It doesn’t just happen. And in doing so, we attract like energy. Like attracts like energy. That’s a fact.

As we move through our day, we are always going encounter obstacles, events and people that will throw a monkey wrench in our day, but coming from a mind set that says, “I feel so fortunate to be here with the resources and loved ones around me,” is inherently a stronger stance than, the “why me” victim perspective. Believe me, I’ve tried many times.

Write out your gratitude list today and see how it works for you.