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It has been said that it takes 21 days in a row of doing a task in order to form a habit. That doesn’t mean it necessarily gets easier to do, but never the less, after that amount of time you are bound to create some momentum.

Don’t take it lightly. Use it. Every ounce of it. There has been many a time when I have been on par with my daily tasks with pre-destined intentions and one day comes along and I decide not to follow through. I come up with some excuse as to why I shouldn’t put in the work – with all that momentum behind me – and skip. And most times I regret it.

Live and learn. Think ahead. Plan for the future. Find the tasks that lead to meaning in your life and do them. Then hit repeat. Build momentum. Don’t take it for granted. And then do it again.

Before you know it you are back in the saddle.

There are some things I know – because of previous life experiences, outcomes/results, trial and error and therefore refer to scientific facts, and then there are other things I cannot prove as I sit here and write this blog. But, I will say it anyway: Lacking to forgive others – especially over long time periods can be extremely toxic for an individual’s health.

In fact, there have been studies done at The International Forgiveness Institute that show exactly that. There have been numerous studies done, but two of them in particular studied two different groups of people: Incest survivors as well as emotionally abused individuals. The results are clear. The people who practiced forgiveness were happier, healthy, less depressed, decreased anxiety and increased self-esteem.

One of my best friends passed away a few years back and they were abused as a child. In addition they died of cancer of the reproductive organs – an often seen case for victims who have been abused sexually. Could my friend have benefited from practicing forgiveness? I’m not sure. Probably. I don’t think it would have hurt. I’m not saying it would have saved their life, but . . .

When I free myself up to forgive I feel lighter, free and able to move forward – physically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally. To continue to learn, grow and evolve. If not, we become prisoners of our own ego and remain stagnate as human beings.

This is not my destiny nor should it be yours. Find a way: Forgive.

You can be oblivious in many different ways I suppose. One way, would to not know what is going on in your surroundings as you pass through your day, your daily tasks and when you are doing your best to connect with people. To me, this kind of oblivious is the more common. Do your own thing and not worry about what else is going on around you whether it pertains to you or not. You don’t care how your actions effect others and/or your environment you dwell in.

Another kind of oblivious seems more interesting to me. That would be to choose what you are oblivious to. Outside influences, negativity, odds, fear (in most cases), past outcomes you didn’t like, status quo, what other people think and how many “likes” and “subscribes” you have. We get to choose what we focus on and what is important to us. It’s a choice. It’s really that simple.

What do you want to choose to be oblivious to? Have fun with it. It’s ultimately your choice. Maybe it’s your mistakes. Your lack of education. Your height. Your SAT scores. Your failed marriage. It’s not to pretend it didn’t happen. It’s a way of putting your focus on what you intend to attract.

Learn from life and all she throws you. And stay oblivious.

It would seem nowadays we find ourselves doing the same tasks, driving the same streets, engaging in the same work again and again and again. 2 years ago I may have slipped into auto-pilot when it came to such matters, but these are not regular days any more. There has been political turmoil, civil unrest and this thing called a global pandemic on our hands.

I lost a friend and work colleague to Covid recently and those repetitious duties we would partake in together are now just a memory. Did I take those times for granted? Probably. Is there any way I could have understood how precious those moments were? No. Do I wish I could have them again? You better believe it.

There is a part of me that takes comfort in the repetitious doings throughout my day. As I’m sure for all of us. I think it has to do with the “knowing.” We’ve done it before, no surprises. We have a good idea of the outcome. I’m not saying fill your lives with these moments, however I don’t find myself walking through them numb to the world around me nearly as much any more. I engage in them deeper. Because I do my best to remind myself I will never be in this exact moment again.

It’s been an unwritten rule for me to not say “I told you so,” to people when it goes down just as I thought it would. My children are most likely excluded from my childish remarks – unless of course its’ something that is a serious matter.

Mostly because I don’t like it when people say that to me. I think to myself, “They had no idea that result was going to happen.” But, nevertheless the words come out of their mouth as if they are as sure as the sky is blue. Bottom line: Every dog has his day. It’s not about who is right or wrong. For me, it’s about helping receptive people, kind people, loving people be better. In fact, be the best they can be.

That is sooooo much more gratifying to see someone soar in success after numerous attempts at something they were unable to accomplish before, than indulging your ego in a snarky phrase like that.