Author: Jim Gohrick (Page 74 of 159)

What does that mean!?

Often times we have a tendency to make too much of something that comes up in our day rather than letting it come and go like a ticker tape across our TV screens. And once it’s gone it’s forgotten.

We can sabotage our entire day because something goes sideways in the morning and from that point on we decide to “have a bad day” or determine, “nothing is going right for me today.” Why do we do this? I believe it’s because it’s the path of least resistance. Let’s be honest; it’s a whole lot easier being negative than it is positive. Don’t believe me?

Try this experiment: This is going to take a bit of effort and awareness, but it’s worth it. Decide to carry a small notebook in your pocket with a pencil or pen all day. Make a mental note that you’re going to write down every time you take part in a conversation with someone else and you’re negative. It could be as simple as: “Man, the weather is miserable today.” Or “Traffic was terrible coming in to work.” Or “People are so stupid out on the road” (I personally get this one a lot). Maybe, “This world is in shambles, I feel sorry for the kids today.” I think you get the idea.

At the end of the day count up how many times something negative came out of your mouth. You may be surprised.

A result – traffic, your hairstyle, your bosses attitude, etc. – isn’t good or bad. It just is. Another words, a spade is a spade.

Good luck!

There was a time in my younger years when getting my hands into other people’s business was a big part of my life. It also spilled over into other interests as I entered college.

I went to school in New Mexico and landed there completely naive to the desert landscape, the cuisine, the culture as well as the popular hobby of hunting. As a young man with a large ego, I had a strong desire to place my heavy fingerprint in the world. I’m not proud to say, but it came at a cost of other living creatures and to myself.

Maybe it was due to the lack of development of my frontal lobe as a young male or some sort of deep teenage angst, nevertheless, it was a time where I just wasn’t able to live and let live.

Don’t get me wrong, I wasn’t cruel in any way, but over the years my perspective changed and to this day I will catch a fly in my hand and set it free outside before I will choose to end it’s life.

No judgement. All good. Just saying, right now, I choose to live and let live.

That’s all.

I don’t want to be negative, but I’m not referring to the fun sense of the phrase.

I’m talking about indulging ourselves into the darkness of anger, resentment and fear which leads us to a path of . . . . rage.

This is an indulgence. To lose our temper. Fly off the handle. Feed our ego.

It’s not necessary. Things don’t get done any faster, better or more effectively when anger is thrown into the mix.

It’s taking a shortcut and a cop out so we can let ourselves off the hook and not have to be responsible for our actions. We have ourselves believe it’s because we’re passionate about what we’re doing. Because we care.

Well, even though we may feel there’s no consequences, there is. Maybe not right now. Not even tomorrow or next week, but there’s consequences. There always is. Even though we like to kid ourselves into believing otherwise.

When it’s all falling apart around us is exactly when we need to stay calm, stand strong and engage fully into the next moment.

No more. No less.

It means something different to all of us.

For some, it may mean having a 24 hr. driver take you where you want to go in your blacked out SUV.

For others it may mean going out to a restaurant for breakfast once a month.

And for some it may mean being and remaining healthy.

However we define “Livin’ Large,” we can hopefully all agree we live in a country – in a place – where we have the opportunity to live our lives the way we want to based on our choices and the chances afforded to us.

Hopefully, we take the opportunity to be thankful for what we have today and realize more than likely, we are Livin’ Large.

Is that a little too dramatic? Maybe. Maybe not. I guess it depends on who you talk to.

No doubt, I’m filled with joy and am arguably happier when creating, but is it essential to living? I guess it’s relative to how we want to live our lives and what’s important to us.

For me, I’ve always come back to this: It’s my intention to be the best version of myself I can be while on this earth. Does that include creating? Probably. How often? Everyday? Most likely.

Then there’s your answer.

Even though society (in general) doesn’t seem to place importance on creating daily – unless of course we’re selling our creative endeavors for millions of dollars. But, that’s not what gives them value. It’s more vital what those daily efforts do for our souls. Our being. Our happiness and our wellness.

It would seem too much importance has been placed on the end result rather than the actual process of creating.

Every time I’ve chosen to walk the path of creativity, I have always felt closer to who I am as a full expression of myself than when I’m not creating. In addition, I’ve felt more of a connection to others and more alive than ever.

Is that essential to living?

I’m not sure. But, it seems to make sense to me.